Second chance is the best gift you can give someone... Everyone deserves a second chance because nobody is perfect, but not for the same mistake. If you want a second chance or if you are thinking to give someone a second chance, here is what you should know!
Second chance? Judging its worth
Friendships, relationships or acquaintances all
demand another shot. How many times is a second chance valid for? How many
times do we keep giving others another chance? We are humans, as humans we make
mistakes. We are bound to disappoint, hurt and take advantage. Isn’t there a
limit that needs to be set?
This may be a very subject issue. Dig deeper and
look into the reasons. We all at a point have been taken advantage of or have
had injustice done to us. The “Why-one-did-what-he-did”
is a major check point for judging the attitude. It all comes down to the
attitude of the person. There are a few categories according to how people
evaluate such incidents.
The Genuine attitude
None of us are perfect and deserve a chance to rectify
the errors done. The situation should enable one to understand the wrong done
and learn from it, genuinely realizing what went wrong and seek to improve.
People with such attitudes should always be given another chance. They are quite
justified to be considered back in the relationship. When there is true
realization and they are willing to accept their fault, please consider.
Technically speaking, this is the first chance. The period from here onward is
to observe the genuinity of their attitudes. If they really did take it
seriously, the chances of them repeating the mistake is close to nil.
The masked attitude
There are certain types of people who will
apologize and make a huge deal out of the issue, will show true remorse and will
do anything to receive the second chance. One should be a little careful. They
might portray that they are truly affected by it and may promise to change but
in reality, it’s all for show. It’s in-built in them to behave the way they
did. They are used to taking advantage and taking for granted. They work of the
emotional element and get their way. At the back of their mind they know that
no matter what they do, they will be taken back after their so called apology. Do
not fall into such a trap.
These are majorly the kinds of people we face.
Be kind-hearted and forgiving but never a doormat. Judge when a person is using
you and there is no shame is neglecting such people. People deserve a few
chances but when that’s what their character is, step back. Do not dig your own
grave. If your friend did value you, they wouldn’t be taking advantage. Learn
through experience. Check for motives and repetition of such behavior. Judge
accordingly. Not all of us can be like the parents we have, who have no other
option but to give us a truckload of chances. It’s even true for marriages to
an extent. In terms of friendships and relationships otherwise, it’s easier to
let go of people. Each one has their self worth and deserves not to be taken
advantage of, the same way one would deserve another chance.
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